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He's actually a big, big baby, and half Lab, but when Sota comes near I hope, my dog Ruger will latch on and bite off his little tiny jumblies...

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DONT HAVE KIDS, or get her knocked up.. thats worst case scenariou if you manage to get back together. Sorry to hear about it, wouldnt be fun.. Want my Rottwieler in my Pic for an exchange...

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It is a control issue - if you can't come to common ground now it will only get worse for both of you. The child needs discipline and consequences - it is not always the dogs fault. Try counciling - caution - counselors usually tell the woman what they don't want to hear so be prepared to move on now - life is too short to submit to emotional abuse through the control of your life by a woman who professed her love but truly seems to have an ulterior motive. Good Luck man - you're in the prayers of a lot of guys who have been there/done that.

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Keep the dog you shouldn't have to jump through a bunch of hoops to keep any woman. It sounds like her kid is an animal terrorists. She hasn't ever taught it to respect anything so it doesn't

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Not too many people can afford a motel room and a house. Spend that hotel money on a marriage councilor, because your dog knows more about what's going on then you and your spouse do. Your wife will never understand the affection you have for your dog, nor does she want to. She would like to see that same love for her and her daughter which your heart is big enough to do this. She thinks you love your dog more than them which in some ways is possible because of the time difference. Seek some professional help where you can go to someone who knows about pets, children and spouse conflict.

Good luck 

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counseling may work for issues caused by drinking, gambling, sudden tragic event etc.. If its a simple issue of control and spite, save your money. Only a counselor will try and waste your time with their serivices. You have two simple choices; 1. do what she says, when she says. 2. move on.

 

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I can tell you from experience, no matter how much the dog is worth to you, a permanent disfigurement to any child is not worth keeping the dog. It doesn't even have to be with this wife. It be a neighbor kid or a family member. This is a no brainer. I wish i could put the tip of my childs finger back on, but "we had to try and keep the dog"...Famous last words.


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I know if my dog bit one of my kids I'd take it out back and put a bullet in its head.
 
As far as what to do about the wife, there isn't a single person on here that knows you or your wife's situation well enough to be giving advice. I certainly wouldn't let anyones opinion on Fishingbuddy influence your decision. Mine included.

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Wow!!!!!!!!! Lots and lots of dumb assed advice on this thread and some very dumb dog owners as well!!!!!!!!!!

What we are seeing is a change in the dog and an owner who is not its master!!!!!!!!!!

Dogs are pack animals. Dog sees it status higher in the pack than the child or wife!!!!!!!!! Simple observation, not so simple to fix!!!!!!
Wife has a fear of the animal, which has to be overcome. She needs to learn to control and dominate the animal with body language,and calm demeanor. You also need to do the same thing, and then teach the child as it grows to do the same thing!!!!!!!

I do not care if it is a chow or a pit bull, all are basically the same in regards to responding to pack leadership!!!!!

I am in and out of homes daily with dogs. I have never been bitten nor feared being bitten because the dogs become submissive to me because of my body language and I remain calm.

So instead of getting rid of the dog, do yourself and your wife and children a favor and learn how to control properly dogs and this will then give everyone the ablity to live with dogs in a proper manner and safe environment!!!

In my lifetime I have seen fence row to fence row farming and the return of CRP and game to the landscape.Now we face again the prosepect of fence row to fence row again! Sportsman are our own worst enemy in that we fail to look forward and focus to much on the now!

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Yes this site is full or Dr PHil's. First off she knew you had a dog, now it sounds like even if the dog would have not done this your new wife hates dogs period, based on what you write. She does sound like a one way wife, try to sit down and talk this out in normal voices and reason through it. I agree no dog needs to be like that ,I would have zero tolerance too. You might be able to train the dog not to do this but likely not. Train the kid good luck. Sounds like you lost both dog and marriage, sorry man love is a damn ugly thing in life in end, whether for your wife or dog. Good Luck.

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Before postin advice, all you experts should post how many years you have been married to your current wife, what wife number you are on and how long your current dog has been with you.

It's not that bad.

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10 1/2 years, #2 and 11 months (ours was a plan for many years ahead of time).

But sportsman, you have also posted; please share your stats.

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I would like to know what kind of a nip this was.  If no marks and just a way of telling the kid to knock it off, i would dicipline the dog for it but not get rid of it.  I was taught when growing up there are consequences for everything that i do whether it be something like screwing with a dog until i got bit, my parents wouldn't have blamed the dog i would have gotten yelled at for not leaving the dog alone.  It's weird at what high standards dogs are held to, if a cat scratched a kid because they pulled it's tail it doesn't seem to be as big a deal or if a kid got kicked by a pony.  I'm one of those guys that feel my dog is part of the family, my girlfriend knew that coming in and it was made clear.  you and your wife depending on the situation could try and work it out but sometimes it just doesn't work, good luck with whatever happens.

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sportsman | Said:
Before postin advice, all you experts should post how many years you have been married to your current wife, what wife number you are on and how long your current dog has been with you.

Married 33 years.  Still on wife #1.
Have had our current dog for 7 years.

I say kennel the kid, give the dog a kiss, and bend the old lady over and give her a bone.

"Lifes tough pilgrim, and it's even tougher if you're stupid"  --John Wayne

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30yrs. 1st wife,had the dog 9 months.Safed her from a bullet,problem with the dog not being able to ajust to a new baby.Great dog, just needed to learn who was in control.

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This is the absolute last "go to" place I would go to for marriage advice. LOL.

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20 years and one wife, spoiled dog thats a best friend. also keep in mind. this was a thread ASKING for opinions so nobody needs to apologize for giving one. I am aiming this at the self righteous people wondering why anyone should be giving an opinion on the issue.

 

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engaged.  dogs 11 1/2 and 8 years. 

sounds to this guy like ur issue(s) go beyond the dog and the kid and the nipping and teasing the dog.  regardless of who did wrong... the dog or the kid... or whether or not any of the dog's behavior or the kids behavior can be fixed, i think you are seeing other issues manifest themselves in this specific incident.  she sounds controlling, unwilling to compromise and not very committed to working thru the challenging times.  although, we are only gettin ur side of things.  on the other hand, your committment to the marraige already seems questionable as well.  the biggest sign of it is that you came to FBO looking for advice and more than likely just wanted to gain approval for your feelings and your inclination to dump the wife and child and pick the dog.  if you can't sit down and talk thru this one, you will have problems for years to come.  use this situation as a measuring stick for how you will deal with the sure to come much more pressing issues in your future life together.

for funsies sakes tho...lets assume this really is just about a kid being nipped and her not wanting the dog around anymore.  personally, i think she needs to be more flexible and give a little.  failure to even consider other options speaks volumes about her as well. 

i ain't doctor phil.. but i did stay at a holiday inn express last month and had a girlfriend once... so, i am pretty sure i am qualified to give advice. 

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espringers Said:
engaged.  dogs 11 1/2 and 8 years. 

sounds to this guy like ur issue(s) go beyond the dog and the kid and the nipping and teasing the dog.  regardless of who did wrong... the dog or the kid... or whether or not any of the dog's behavior or the kids behavior can be fixed, i think you are seeing other issues manifest themselves in this specific incident.  she sounds controlling, unwilling to compromise and not very committed to working thru the challenging times.  although, we are only gettin ur side of things.  on the other hand, your committment to the marraige already seems questionable as well.  the biggest sign of it is that you came to FBO looking for advice and more than likely just wanted to gain approval for your feelings and your inclination to dump the wife and child and pick the dog.  if you can't sit down and talk thru this one, you will have problems for years to come.  use this situation as a measuring stick for how you will deal with the sure to come much more pressing issues in your future life together.

for funsies sakes tho...lets assume this really is just about a kid being nipped and her not wanting the dog around anymore.  personally, i think she needs to be more flexible and give a little.  failure to even consider other options speaks volumes about her as well. 

i ain't doctor phil.. but i did stay at a holiday inn express last month and had a girlfriend once... so, i am pretty sure i am qualified to give advice. 

I like your comment "she needs to be more flexible and give you a little."
I'm sure you were referring to my comment on bending her over, right?  

"Lifes tough pilgrim, and it's even tougher if you're stupid"  --John Wayne

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sdwxman Said:
This is the absolute last "go to" place I would go to for marriage advice. LOL.

Oh cmon sd, give it a bloody go.  What can I assist you with?  PM me if you're too shy to go public.

"Lifes tough pilgrim, and it's even tougher if you're stupid"  --John Wayne

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sniff, sniff.

Guys, I have issues. I need your help. Been married 15 years with 3 kids and 3 cats. Can't stand the smell of cat shit.

Can we have a group hug first guns??

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sdwxman Said:
This is the absolute last "go to" place I would go to for marriage advice. LOL.

Oh cmon sd, give it a bloody go.  What can I assist you with?  PM me if you're too shy to go public.

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sdwxman Said:
sniff, sniff.

Guys, I have issues. I need your help. Been married 15 years with 3 kids and 3 cats. Can't stand the smell of cat shit.

Can we have a group hug first guns??

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sdwxman Said:
This is the absolute last "go to" place I would go to for marriage advice. LOL.

Oh cmon sd, give it a bloody go.  What can I assist you with?  PM me if you're too shy to go public.

Take two of the cats and tie their tails together with a 3 foot rope, throw them over the clothes line, and call me in the morning.

"Lifes tough pilgrim, and it's even tougher if you're stupid"  --John Wayne

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sdwxman Said:
sniff, sniff.

Guys, I have issues. I need your help. Been married 15 years with 3 kids and 3 cats. Can't stand the smell of cat shit.

Can we have a group hug first guns??

sdwxman, pretty sure that isn't a picture of guns4ever in his avatar.  Or any of the rest of the other "huggable" avatars for that matter...

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sounds to me like you should of married your dog or at least been honest about how much the dog would me over her and her kids.  i know if a dog bit any of my kids it would be instantly brought to the vet.  if you had your own kids right now you would realize they are your world and that you would do anything to protect them. 

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Does your wife have a boat?

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Does your wife have a boat?

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I had completely forgotten about this situation.  The Minnow is still around and asking about boats.  Don't know if that means this got resolved favorably or not.  He's not obligated to share anything though.  Just wondering if all Dr. Phil advice given here paid off.

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hate to pull an Ann landers on you but have you tried couseling . If you are in the Bismarck area I can refer you to a good one. this is too serious an issue to go about hap-hazardly, I know this for a fact years ago my wife left me and took the GSH and left the kids, I have another GSH and the kids, somebody else has the wife, I still think he would have prefered the dog

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 HHMM lets see dog for ten years or wife for 2 months. I would have to say keep the dog. I mean the dog would mean more to me because the dog came first.

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This thread fails, and is epic at the same time. Such a thing hasn't happened before. Congrats minnow


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slimeyworm Said:
sounds to me like you should of married your dog or at least been honest about how much the dog would me over her and her kids.  i know if a dog bit any of my kids it would be instantly brought to the vet.  if you had your own kids right now you would realize they are your world and that you would do anything to protect them. 

My thoughts exactly. I'm thinking most that would take the dog over the girl have no kids. If I just married a woman and her dog bit my kid there would be some serious problems for that dog.

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