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I need some serious help i have a german shorthair who i love to death dog and i have hunted the dakota praries for 10years hes broke ice for me retreiveing and broke his body for me and i personally trained him.Ive been married for 2.5months now the dog is not mean!!! new wifes daughter grabs,pushes and pulls on him and he snipped at her twice now.At any other time the daughter isnt messing with him the dog wags his tail excited to see her.I had him before we ever met and she says i have to get rid of him being an absolute blank blank i said no way so im in a motel ready to file for divorce.Need help i feel i know the right thing to do is to keep my hunting partner?

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Good dogs are hard to come-by there is a lot of other women!!!!

 

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Yikes man.. But I would not own a dog that has a go at any kid. Thats my two cents.

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Dogs as well as you may know in some cases are easily trained and follow orders to the t and ask for nothing in return but a few treats and birds to chase. I guess my only advise is to stand firm and stay by or dogs side and see if the tide passes and tell the little kid to stop messing with the dog. I would get pissed if someone messes with me like that. I really hope that she can see your love and commitment for your dog and your dog's commitment and desire to be with his master. Don't let her bully you into giving up what you love. Some people's pets are their lives and would do anything for them. I feel for you Angry Minnow. Take care and let us know how it all pans out for you and your dog. 

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Sorry! If you really love her (the wife) she needs to come first. First question is can you kennel the dog and spend some quality time with it everyday so you can have both, yet keep them separate. Tough when you have so much invested in a dog and it comes to this point. Personally I feel this should of been worked out way before you got married! You now have caused alot of issues for the child involved and it's not fair to put her through this. Why is it adults can do what ever they want and the child suffers? Maybe a professional trainer to work with the child and dog together so they learn who is dominate and how to work together?  At ten the dog doesn't have many years left and  this could be a short term issue. Then maybe a new pup raised together would be an idea. Good luck!

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little kids are extremely easy to train also, so either get her to train the kid or send her packing.  I'm curious.  Has this kid never had an encounter with your dog before you got married or did you meet in vegas the night before and get married? 

 

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A little more information!  She knew i had this dog when we met and my love for the outdoors and dogs in the house.Now that were married she says i cant balieve youd throw away a marriage over just a dog she dont understand its not just a dog she has no respect for him and never has nor my feeling about the matter she is trying to change everything.Ill always own dogs and i love my hunting dogs to be house dogs i have to big of a heart to get rid of my dog i feel strong about this.She says its all his fault and not her daughters well ive tried to tell her if her kid would quit hanging and pushing it he wouldnt.I dont know what to do i mean i do but i dont this sucks that a woman that supposedly loves me would put me in this position.


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Sounds like you are up against more then a hunting dog.. Thats what I would figure out first. How is next fall going to be for you. DAMN it angry minnow your going hunting again. Kinda deal who knows its funny how true colors dont always come out right away or we ignore them.

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Go get a 2nd dog.

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Horsager Said:
Go get a 2nd dog.

and a new woman.

 

Not all who wander are lost.

 

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Can't really help you here.  My experience with this was my daughter when she was about 4 years old getting bit by my 10 year old lab.  She tried to pull him out of his kennel and she knew better but still got grabbed.  No real damage to her.  I loved that dog but it took me 1 second to decide what had to be done.  Went to the Vet the next day.

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How long did you date before the marriage? The dog only enters a defense mode when the kid does something wrong. It isn't the dog it is the kid. 2 1/2 months is not enough time for adjustment into a new family. You have 2 choices One is to teach the kid to be kind to ALL things or number two is to ask the wife to go shopping with you so you can buy a new skirt and she can get more pants. The relationship is suppose to be two ways and give and take not give and give and give. It is time for a long talk about the kid's action. If the dog is agrissive when ever it sees the kid then that is totally a different issue.  If you let her run your life then you have no life and are better not being together

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Sorry to sound harsh the first go around! Discussed this with my wife and she actually thinks I would pick the dog! Hopefully this thought will keep her in line. Ha! Ha! I actually believe you will find a compromise if you really want it to work. Good luck!

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I know the "dog lovers" are going to pounce on me, but here goes:  Hunting dogs are tools to be used in the field, just like your gun, hunting vest, goose call, etc.  They are not afforded the same status as family members - or at least they should not be in my opinion.  The choice between a tool (dog) and any family member (no matter how new to the family) would be a very simple one for me.

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After the dog is gone how does she feel about your guns in the house??

Get that 2nd dog that was good advice.

 

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this is not the place to get advise on your marriage !!!

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DAKOTA KID Said:
this is not the place to get advise on your marriage !!!

That's the best advice I've ever read on this site.

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Sportsman Said:
I know the "dog lovers" are going to pounce on me, but here goes:  Hunting dogs are tools to be used in the field, just like your gun, hunting vest, goose call, etc.  They are not afforded the same status as family members - or at least they should not be in my opinion.  The choice between a tool (dog) and any family member (no matter how new to the family) would be a very simple one for me.

Sportsman why don't you lock yourwife in the trunk along with the dog and come back in 1/2 hr and you tell us which one will be happy to see you.

By the way my offer still stand for snipe hunting "you should be able to track them now with all of your knowledge you seem to have""

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You may as well keep the dog,and END THE Marriage!!!!!!!Because if you have no more comitment to this relationship,than I've heard so far.You should never have gotten married in the first place.A good marriage,is a wonderful thing.A bad marriage is HELL.This child is going to test you a whole lot worse then this, as the years go by.So either walk away,or change your attitude and work it out.I see room for a lot of compromise,it you want to work this out,but it is a 2 way street.

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i have cyied over loosing a dog that has to be put down for old age and illness  but have never cried over an ex        tell her to gtfo

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Thanks for everyones opinions.Honestly she wont budge on the matter and the fact of how she is about dogs my life would never be good with her feeling this way about dogs i love dogs and want and will have dogs in my life forever hunting dogs that is.I understand everyones opinions but i have mine and she hard about alot of other things also i was hoping it would all work itself out weve been living together for over a year now and true colors have and are coming out.I dont mind dog hair in the house to a point she hates it she rolls my truck seats before her kids sit on em.It started out that i moved him out of the bedroom when she moved in for her now she wants him gone not goin to happen i have given this woman alot truly i mean alot she cant respect my feelings on this.I cant afford a house and a motel for long so somethings goin to give and its not goin to be me.


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Your best bet is to get on the DR. Phil show.  

 

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Im not asking for marriage advise just opinions from fellow dog owners and you have know idea of the compramises i have made for her to this point its overwhelming.She wont compramise at all theirs no building a kennel in the garage or whatever she wants it gone,and gone.I wont say know more on here about this matter now people are judging my commitment to her i always have to give and give her way.


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It's pretty amazing how the words "I do" change people.  They live this scherade for however long and as soon as they say those two little words their true colors shine like the morning sun.  All I can say is "Run Forrest Run"

 

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Uh oh!  You might be surprised at what you end up giving once you file for divorce.  Granted, I know nothing about your situation but you might want to get a "worst case" opinion from an attorney to see if there are any steps you could take to mitigate any damages to your future.  I see you are in Wisconsin and I think that is a Community Property state so there could be some issues that are different than here in ND.

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Marriage is about compromise on both sides.  Sounds like neither one of you have that ability.  Take it for what it's worth.  Good luck.

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Farnorth Said:
Uh oh!  You might be surprised at what you end up giving once you file for divorce.  Granted, I know nothing about your situation but you might want to get a "worst case" opinion from an attorney to see if there are any steps you could take to mitigate any damages to your future.  I see you are in Wisconsin and I think that is a Community Property state so there could be some issues that are different than here in ND.

In a Community Property State this dog could get very costly in a settlement .

Take Farnorths advice this dog may not be as valuable as you might think. 

 

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Stand your ground Angry Minnow. I know everyone has a opinion, but the only opinion that matter is yours whether people agree with your decision or not its still yours to make and is admirable to ask for others input. I had a friend who had the same trouble when he was dating his now (ex) girlfriend and she was fine with his pointers when she would just stay the night but when it turned serious and she moved in he was told to decide between her or the dogs. He put it off as long as he could but she ended up going and it wasn't all just about the dogs. A lot of other issues that added fuel to the fire that made that decision a lot easier for him. I am sure you provide and love her but don't get totally domesticated and neutered.

Josh fishandhunt

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Hey, I'm not saying to file for divorce or not to file.  That's your decision.

My advice is to get some QUALIFIED legal advice about what you might be facing once you and her both have lawyers tearing into things.  Don't assume and don't listen to friends about legal issues unless they are are qualified to advise you.

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 I agree with Sportsman 100% No dog that bites would be around 1 second longer. 

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bluedunn0 Said:
 I agree with Sportsman 100% No dog that bites would be around 1 second longer. 

Agreed, though I'd have doggie #2 in the house before saying goodbye to doggie #1.

My dogs are spoiled.  In the house all the time except for bathroom breaks and hunting/walks.  Doggie 1 is up on the bed with us when he wants to be, both nap on the couch with us, etc.  But, I have 0 tolerance for any dog that shows even the least bit of aggression to anyone in my house (assuming that person is supposed to be there).  That said, I regularly do things to keep doggies from thinking they're anything but the bottom wrung.  I kennel them together, make them swap kennels.  Feed them together and apart, make 1 watch the other eat, swap food bowls, take food away from them mid-meal, etc.  Kiddo is 13mo and has free reign to pet, pat, crawl on, etc either dog.  The only defense I'll accept is them voluntarily going where she isn't.

This moment is a paradox, it's the oldest you've ever been as well as the youngest you'll ever be.



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